Wie würdet ihr das neue "Bundesministeriums für Digitalisierung und Staatsmodernisierung" abkürzen?

Mir fällt da spontan #BDSM ein.
Und ich finde, dass das durchaus zutreffend sein dürfte.

I often get messaged on Fetlife by people I don't know asking to meet up with them to play.

I don't tend to do this anymore because of covid, so I'll simply respond "sorry, I don't meet up with strangers".

Women and queers tend to message back with something akin to "I totally understand, have a great week!"

Men almost always message back asking how to "not be a stranger", or they start arguing with me that they aren't a stranger because we're chatting/I know their name/we both live in Bathurst etc..

But it's like... why are you, a grown adult, unsure how to not be a stranger to someone? Like is the concept of learning about and becoming friends with another person that much of an alien idea to you?

Also, I'm not a vending machine you pay friendship into until I fuck you - and I get the irony of this, seeing as I often fuck my friends.

Shop drop! I've got THIRTEEN new items in the shop today! 6 collars, 3 pride cuffs, and 4 day collars!

Check it out: https://cairosteele.etsy.com

This On Guard Cigar Salon episode really struck a chord with me. A wide swath of our country was gaslit and dog whistled to support a regime that seems to be bent on harm. I’m looking for opportunities to speak out and protest. More importantly is to ensure that those who responded to these signals to support this mess and who will themselves be harmed.

#uspol #OnGuardCigarSalon #LGBTQ #BDSM #neurodivergent

https://youtu.be/QqomEG8vacE?si=w-Hh2-ynnXWhFVRA

Now we know why the Heard and McDonald Islands ended up with tariffs...

The next class my friends are teaching is "when no is not a safeword," a class on CNC.

It's designed for those new to CNC and will heavily focus on safety and how to do it ethically.

Tickets: https://forbiddentickets.com/events/pandastory/2025-04-16-when-no-is-not-a-safeword

Disclosure: I get a % of ticket sales but I paid to go to their classes before & will continue to after cos they're awesome educators.

My #bdsm #novella "Awakening" is now available as print from Amazon.

"simon’s world begins to unravel as Josh challenges him in ways he never thought possible, pushing him to confront his deepest fears and yearnings. Will Simon give in to the magnetic pull of their connection, or retreat to the safety of the familiar?"

https://amzn.to/41WEGBK

New interview for "Hailing Hellions," which interviews models from my book series—usually about #BDSM, politics (e.g., gender studies, #Marxism) + liberating sex work!

Today's guest: @AshleyYelhsa1

CW: ableism

https://vanderwaardart.com/2025/04/hailing-hellions-an-interview-with-ashley-yelhsa

ooooh

It's interesting how it's always the men with the "LordMasterDivineDomlyGod" names who make declarations of how sadism/masochism works for everyone*, and when you question what they've said they decide you're the one being stubborn and ignorant?

Like, my guy.. my little guy, it's ok that other people experience things in different ways to you. It's really ok.

#kink #bdsm #Ds #Dominant #submissive #fetlife

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* brought to you by the ever pervasive bullshit idea that sadists are naturally dominant and masochists are naturally submissive, because sadism is active and dynamic, but masochism is passive and receptive.

#Kink and #LGBT dating apps #exposed 1.5m private user images online

"Researchers have discovered nearly 1.5 million pictures from specialist dating apps – many of which are explicit – being stored online without password protection, leaving them #vulnerable to hackers and #extortionists.

Anyone with the link was able to view the private photos from five platforms developed by M.A.D Mobile: kink sites #BDSM People and Chica, and LGBT apps Pink, Brish and Translove."
https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c05m5m5v327o

Ich werde als Gastherausgeber eine Ausgabe der #espero zum Thema "#Anarchismus und Sexualität(en)" gestalten. Den Call for articles findet man hier: https://www.maurice-schuhmann.de/c-f-a-espero/
#gender #queer #bdsm #fetischismus

Off to "At Your Service: Topping from Submission" today, a class on service topping (as you may have guessed from the title!).

It's something I've thought I should look into for ages but broadly makes me feel uncomfortable (apart from now one very specific situation.)

If you're interested, you can grab a ticket here: https://forbiddentickets.com/events/pandastory/2025-03-30-at-your-service-topping-from-submission

Disclosure: I get a % of ticket sales but I have paid for classes from them before cos they're awesome educators.