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KalvinI shared something personal and meaningful with someone I considered a friend, and their immediate reaction was to accuse me of sending a malware. There was no attempt to understand, no curiosity—just suspicion and rejection. That kind of response, especially when you're being vulnerable, really hurts. When there's no trust, there's no foundation for friendship. Being treated like a threat when you’re just trying to connect is painful. It leaves a lasting impression, and it's hard to see a path forward in any relationship where you're not seen or respected.<a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/Vulnerability" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#Vulnerability</a> <a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/BrokenTrust" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#BrokenTrust</a> <a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/FriendshipHurt" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#FriendshipHurt</a> <a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/EmotionalPain" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#EmotionalPain</a> <a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/NoSecondChances" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#NoSecondChances</a> <a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/RejectionStings" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#RejectionStings</a> <a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/GuardedHeart" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#GuardedHeart</a> <a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/HealingJourney" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#HealingJourney</a> <a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/TrustIssues" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#TrustIssues</a> <a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/FriendshipFail" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#FriendshipFail</a> <a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/EmotionalSafety" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#EmotionalSafety</a> <a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/HardLessons" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#HardLessons</a> <a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/BoundariesMatter" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#BoundariesMatter</a> <a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/RespectMissing" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#RespectMissing</a> <a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/LastingScars" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#LastingScars</a> <a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/GuardedNow" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#GuardedNow</a> <a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/NoUnderstanding" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#NoUnderstanding</a> <a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/LonelyFeeling" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#LonelyFeeling</a> <a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/SelfProtection" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#SelfProtection</a> <a href="https://social.vivaldi.net/tags/Newsmast" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#Newsmast</a>

Tokyo Outsider (337ppm)If <a href="https://mas.to/tags/betrayalTrauma" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#betrayalTrauma</a> involves being betrayed by someone on whom you depend, what's the name for the trauma you experience when you're betrayed by someone you don't necessarily depend on but who you trusted nonetheless? 🤔 <a href="https://mas.to/tags/betrayal" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#betrayal</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/emotionalSafety" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#emotionalSafety</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/mentalHealth" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#mentalHealth</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/psychology" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#psychology</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/trauma" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#trauma</a> <a href="https://mas.to/tags/trust" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#trust</a>

FishercatA few years ago, my <a href="https://kolektiva.social/tags/schizophrenic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#schizophrenic</a> brother wound up in the county <a href="https://kolektiva.social/tags/jail" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#jail</a>, and I was visiting him regularly on the weekday allotted to people whose last names started with the letter ours does. It was nothing like movies. In one big room, rows of long tables with a short vertical shelf in the middle separated the sides. Chairs bolted to the floor were set opposite each other on each side of the table.<a href="https://kolektiva.social/tags/Prisoners" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#Prisoners</a> lined up against the wall waiting for their visitor. When they saw each other, they'd choose an open pair of chairs and sit down to talk. No touching was allowed. Some prisoners waited for all the visitors to file in, without anyone coming to see them. They had no way of knowing beforehand if anyone would. They just hoped, and came down.The room was bright white, loud and brightly lit, and everything in it was hard and echoey, with lots of people talking at once. The misery of everyone there was palpable, and crushing.After a few visits, I went to the home of a couple of my witchy friends, and asked them to help me learn how to shield, because that absorbed <a href="https://kolektiva.social/tags/misery" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#misery</a> was making it impossible for me to function. Shielding is something witches do to protect themselves from external sources of damage. My spouse found learning how helpful a few days ago, and I want to share it with y'all, too.The concept is simple. Close your eyes. Think of yourself in a situation where you're completely safe. Imagine yourself physically approaching that location under your own power. Integrating multiple senses into the scene is helpful; imagine the sights you see as you approach, sounds, smells, the feeling of your body's or vehicle's motion, etc.When you're there, and comfortable, go ahead and open your eyes. You're shielded against things that will affect you badly. When you've done what you need to do, take a few minutes to reverse the process. Leave your safe space the same way you got there.Walking around shielded all the time is no good for you and your relationships; you'll be distant to the people and animals in your life. They'll know something is wrong without being able to identify it, and will react differently to you.<a href="https://kolektiva.social/tags/MentalHealth" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#MentalHealth</a> <a href="https://kolektiva.social/tags/prison" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#prison</a> <a href="https://kolektiva.social/tags/witchcraft" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#witchcraft</a> <a href="https://kolektiva.social/tags/psychology" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#psychology</a> <a href="https://kolektiva.social/tags/meditation" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#meditation</a> <a href="https://kolektiva.social/tags/SelfCare" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#SelfCare</a> <a href="https://kolektiva.social/tags/SelfProtection" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#SelfProtection</a> <a href="https://kolektiva.social/tags/shielding" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#shielding</a> <a href="https://kolektiva.social/tags/EmotionalSafety" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#EmotionalSafety</a> <a href="https://kolektiva.social/tags/emotions" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#emotions</a> <a href="https://kolektiva.social/tags/jail" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#jail</a>

David HaighThings you can't say at work:- it's hard being engaged when people keep getting laid off while leaders get big bonuses; - when was the last time you talked with a customer about how much our service stinks;What's on your list?Can employees speak up? Do leaders want them to?<a href="https://sloanreview.mit.edu/article/what-you-still-cant-say-at-work/" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank">https://sloanreview.mit.edu/article/what-you-still-cant-say-at-work/</a><a href="https://mstdn.ca/tags/emotionalsafety" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#emotionalsafety</a> <a href="https://mstdn.ca/tags/leadership" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#leadership</a> <a href="https://mstdn.ca/tags/lean" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#lean</a> <a href="https://mstdn.ca/tags/power" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#power</a>

David Haigh<a href="https://bigthink.com/business/parrhesia-the-importance-of-speaking-truth-to-power-and-how-to-do-it-well/" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank">https://bigthink.com/business/parrhesia-the-importance-of-speaking-truth-to-power-and-how-to-do-it-well/</a>As someone who has been an advisor, seeing the contrast between a jester, Macchiavelli and Foucault, especially against typical kowtowing hierarchal corporate cultures - we all say that speaking truth to power is important, but it is rare to have an environment where it is safe to do so.<a href="https://mstdn.ca/tags/emotionalsafety" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#emotionalsafety</a> <a href="https://mstdn.ca/tags/learning" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#learning</a>

🟡Michael Clifford CarterPatience Can Be a Powerful Act of Love, Fostering a Safe and Nurturing Environment for Personal Development and Emotional Connection. <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/PatientLove" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#PatientLove</a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/FosteringGrowth" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#FosteringGrowth</a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/NurturingSpace" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#NurturingSpace</a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/NurturingLove" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#NurturingLove</a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/EmotionalSafety" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#EmotionalSafety</a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/DevelopmentalSpace" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#DevelopmentalSpace</a>

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