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#overthinking

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Following on from yesterday's post, in the evening the tradesperson returned to the house next door. Our kitchens face each other and there is only a low fence between them. When I was doing the dishes, I looked up and we momentarily locked eyes 😳

I didn't want to close the blinds, as he may have taken offence (according to my warped mind), so I finished the washing up with my head down for the entire time. I simply could not risk making eye contact again! 😬

Feeling I've been fediversing a bit wrong by not boosting enough. Now hesitating to boost at all as since it feels more significant given the rarity 😕.
Going to try to raise my rate of boosting in future from "nearly never" to "low". Noting it's possible to hide boosts if it gets too much 😅 . Boosting does not imply endorsement.
This announcement does not affect my policy on starring of cat pictures. I am compelled to star them, especially if they have alt text. #overthinking

Thinking too much, too deep, too hard…

...thinking till it hurts... I've heard of the expression "thinking till it hurts", and I always thought this was true, not just a saying. Of course, recent studies are proving that hard mental thought work can indeed be painful... But when I was growing up, I think it's was more of a saying than a proven fact. (but I'm no expert, so I can be wrong, this is how I experienced it). But yeah, I always experienced it this way, and with the (then undiagnosed) spicy-ness 🌶️, it only seemed to worsen that process. It was hard at times to "let things go" and I kept going over it again and again. And I still do that at times. I am more aware now and I do try to not get sucked in again till I have headaches that make my eyes see "internal fireworks". But sometimes, it's just hard to let go... […]

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Feedback I get during the prep or doing process risks triggering my insecurity and overthinking, which leads to delays and stalls.

Feedback coming in after launch comes in at the right time -- when I've launched, acquired some data, and recognized some of what I know I can do better, so I'm truly ready for and receptive to feedback and ready to learn for the future

This is a huge light bulb moment for me.

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I read a cute, easy fantasy/romance earlier this year about found family and doing the right thing. Lovely stuff.

There was a character who adopt a bunch of kids, lovely.

BUT one of the kids was a gnome, 200 something years old, and only half way matured. And she was adopted by an ordinary human person.

And at no point did the author mention how that was going to work.

So now I'm haunted from time to time by the idea of a child whose parental figures just age an die, over and over, while she watches on.